It was a long time before I was really back to normal aEU" probably 2-3 weeks before the obsessive thinking stopped for the most part and probably 3 months before my real focusing abilities returned. It was really scary for me to find out my mind wasnaEU(tm)t working right any more. If he appears vague and distracted, this might be happening to him too. My mind could not stop it and my thinking was truly distorted. Hi Haymal, based on my experience with evony and withdrawing from it, at day four without evony and my evony friends, my mind was still in a continuous obsessive loop thinking about evony, as well as all my conversations with alliance members. Hope others had a good holiday.prayers for ALL!!! Oh well.I tried talking about the future with him and retirement or moving somewhere or even planning ahead for Christmas but he's so 's exhausting to try and act normal when normal is the LAST feeling I have! He's such a fooler in that he ACTS okay but something or some spark is missing. He didn't bring his computer and he was basically computer free for 4 days (he checked his email one morning) and I honestly could not tell if he was okay with it. He listens, but honestly, I don't think he hears me at all.I'm tired of listening to the sound of my own voice and hearing NOTHING back from him. Over the holiday, we had some "road trip" time and I basically said (no yelling, nagging, screaming.no drama!) that he has to make a choice.I've already made my choice.our marriage is the most important.now it's time for him to choose. You are soooo right.priorities get totally warped and being the "top" alliance in a game? Well, I can't relate. He's in constant contact by messenger or skype with his alliance and "friends". He goes on holiday but he's on more than one server and has more than 1 account. It sucked him in and he hasn't looked back.
I never counted on the evil that is addiction or the evil in Evony. I thought my husband was happy with me, too and that even though we've had our ups and downs, in our marriage and our business, that we could get through anything. Hey Dave.I hope you are living your new life and haven't gone back to Evony. But i havent played and i have no cities to worry about. And i shall finally get round to cutting the grass in the garden (wildlife sanctuary).Īs a note i only found this site after realising i was missing evony so much. I truly sympathise with whoever is suffering from this game and i hope it all ends good for everybody else. I think on reflection i have been a complete idiot.Īnyway hopefully i have realised the error of my ways and i can go back to being a good husband and succesfull businessman before it is too late. But when you get into that game your priorities get totally warped, and you end up being one of the best at something that is totally unimportant. I like to be the best in what i do, which is fine when my focus is on real life.
Me personally i am an obsessive kind of guy. My advice to anyone playing the game would be to just quit. And once you get round to that way of thinking and you look out for people and they look out for you it is a hard bond to break. And that in a nut shell is what sucks you into the game. As a player you realise the time and effort that has been put into building cities and farming areas etc etc and as in most things you like to think that you do your bit. Whatever you or your friends build on the game is vulnerable 24/7 and i think human nature sways you to try and protect it. The most damaging of elements is just the game mechanics. Due to the nature of the game it is people all over the world playing, and tho you do get an element of ingame flirting it really is harmless as far as i can see. To put peoples minds at rest i'm not aware of any in game romances that have ever took off. Then you join an alliance and form online friendships and before you know it you are looking out not only for yourself but also your new friends. So what drew me into evony, initially it was the picture, then the speed of how quickly you could build up at the start, and that sort of starts you getting hooked. I have a wife whom i have been married to for nearly 20 years and 2 kids 18 and 15 and what i would consider a happy marriage. I have been playing the game for about 2 years and spent quite a bit of money on it and for the most part I (in a capital I) have enjoyed the game. Today i have reset all of my accounts and deleted all of the links on my favourites tab and am determined to never visit the game again. I am very deeply ashamed to say that i too was/am an evony addict.